Many times on a Wednesday night I sit surrounded by a group of teenage girls as we gather together for a bible study (or an attempt to do so). I find it funny that whether we are talking about sin or Noah’s Ark we always seem to land back at the ever so captivating topic of love.

“Tola, why don’t you have a boyfriend?” is usually how our discussions begin. As the girls and I sit together we talk. We talk about life and love.  It’s funny because their constant probing into the lack of a flaming romance in my life leads me to ask that ever so popular question to myself : Why don’t I have a boyfriend? What is it that I’m waiting for?

I think about this every now and then (more-so lately) and I have come up with a few things that are the most important to me in a future husband. What makes the perfect man? Height, looks, popularity… kind words? The ability to make me feel good? While there are many factors to be considered, to me there are few things that actually matter. But these few things mean everything.

My Perfect Man

1.) First and foremost, the only kind of man that I can commit to spending the rest of my life with, for better or for worse, is a man that knows the power of God unto salvation. God has given me new life and raised me up in heavenly places with Christ Jesus. I want a man in whom God has done and continues to do the same work. I cannot be content with a “christian” who has a form of godliness but denies His power. I NEED the power of God in my life and I need a man who is hungry for the same.

2.) Secondly, I desire a man who has a heart for the kingdom of God. A man who sees the souls of men as precious and is committed to surrendering each day to the building of God’s kingdom. I want a man who will be just as happy as I am about living a life that is God’s and not ours.

3.) Thirdly, I want a man with kind eyes. “Man’s eyes reveal his mind more than any other part of his body” said Watchman Nee and I heartily agree. I do not want to fall in love with how this man may look but with how he looks at me.

4.) Fourthly, I want a man with a love for children. God has put a greater and greater love for children on my heart. I want a man who loves children and is willing to give them everything he has.

5.) Lastly, I desire a man who is teachable. Neither he nor I will be “perfect” but I would hope that we would both be teachable and obedient to God’s Holy Spirit as we press on and strive to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus has taken hold of us.