Lately, I have felt a strain in my quiet times (or should I say attempts to have quiet times) with the Lord. I’ve known there was something wrong because God as the good and loving Father that He is is always so faithful to let me know when I’m doing something that isn’t pleasing to Him in some way or another. Whether it be the absence of His presence or just the restlessness of my heart, He lets me know.
Quick side note: I am really learning to love the chastening of the Lord, it is a good thing… don’t ever forget that.
Okay, back to my story, God finally revealed to me tonight what it is in my life that is so grieving Him. My presumptuousness. Specifically, my swiftness to attempt to discern God’s will without even asking Him. This is the way I have been living my life for the past few months.
God makes it very clear in His Word that it matters so much to Him that His children understand what His will is. Ephesians 5:17 says, “Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” Maybe now that we grasp just how important this is to God we can understand why it hurts Him so much when His children assume His will without seeking it.
It is a dangerous place to be to believe that You are so close to the Lord that You longer need to ask Him what He thinks about a certain thing. May we never forget that as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are His ways higher than our ways, and His thoughts higher than our thoughts! (Isaiah 55:9)
You see, it is so easy to fall into the trap of presumption with those closest to us. Here’s just a silly little example: Lets say that we were to ask a man what a random stranger that he had just met for the first time on the train would like for lunch, he would probably look at you like you were crazy and say, “how am I supposed to know that?” BUT if you asked this same man what his wife would like for lunch, he would probably swiftly respond something like this, “Oh she would love a ham and pineapple pizza from that little Italian spot on the corner… that’s her favorite!”
See how it works? The more we know a person the easier it becomes for us to speak for them. I wonder how many marriages have suffered or even ended because communication lines were severed as husbands and wives opted to instead presume the desires of their spouses instead of seeking them out.
The closer we walk with God the easier it becomes to fall into this trap. As baby Christians we run to the Word of God and to His presence for every matter of life, whether small or great. But as we grow in our faith, how easy it becomes to trust in our own wisdom. As wonderful as it is to have the Word of God abiding in our hearts, it can never be a replacement for the voice of God when it comes to direction in our lives.
“Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, ‘This is the way, walk in it,’ whenever you turn to the right hand or whenever you turn to the left.”
A single chord has struck me deepest from one of the strongest examples of biblical marriage I know. Whenever the wife in this particular marriage is talking to me about anything that involves making a significant decision involving her time, money, or any other thing, she always says, “I think that will be fine but let me ask my hubby first.” Why does she do this? Well, as a wife living in submission to her husband, a failure not to do this would be an undercut to his authority.
So it is with the Lord. When we determine what the Lord would will without so much as asking Him we undermine His authority as both Father and Lord. It is a slap in the face, an insult, to the Lord. Oh, may we never lose our humility! May we never lose our innocence! May we never forsake running to the Lord for all things!